Self, be better
Just do your dishes when as soon as you’re done eating. Better yet, do them when you’re done cooking.
Don’t chain smoke during work breaks. That second cigarette is not going to make you feel any better.
Don’t lie to people about sexual health. That’s a really shitty thing to do to someone, it’s hypocritical, and you’re going to feel guilty later when you realize how shitty and hypocritical it is.
Don’t let your genitals dictate what you do.
Just because you’ve gotten by on four hours of sleep before and been fine, it doesn’t mean you should do that regularly. Do you really need to stay up late tonight? Or do you just want to? There will be time tomorrow to dick around online, stop staying on forums until 3 in the morning and then thinking, oh shit, I should go to sleep.
Get at least 7 hours.
Don’t hang out with people you don’t actually like that much. You have plenty of friends, you don’t really need to call people “friends” who bug the shit out of you.
Understand that just as you hope people understand when you’re too busy/tired/stressed to hang out with them, sometimes they are in the same position. It’s not really personal. This day/week is just not the time.
You don’t have to spend $7 on Starbucks every day. Bring snacks from home. And you don’t really need those extra ingredients in your white mocha every day.
Do you really need that sweater from ebay or that dress at Marshall’s or wherever? No. You have too many clothes as is. You don’t need a new garment to feel better about life, but you do need that $20 for necessities.
Just do your damn laundry already. It takes five minutes to put a load in the washer and two minutes to put it in the dryer. You don’t even have to think about it. Throw the clothes in in the evening and put them in the dryer before you go to bed. Bam.
Put your dirty dishes in the washer asap. They will build up, and it will be gross.
Dispose of used cans and bottles. They will build up. It looks sloppy.
Multitask whenever possible. If you don’t want to do something, try to do it at the same time as something else so you can feel accomplished and it’s out of the way and you’re not thinking as much about how you don’t want to be doing it.
Don’t wait until Sunday night to start your homework. You will ALWAYS regret it.
If you have an issue with somebody, confront them, and if you feel like you can’t or really shouldn’t confront them, let it go. By paying mind to people you can’t stand you are only making yourself feel worse/dwell on negativity, while it has absolutely no effect on them.
Make appointments as soon as the need arises. If you can’t do it at that moment, write it down so you can as soon as office hours are open. It usually only takes like five minutes to do.
Don’t wait until the night before an exam to study. Study a little bit whenever you have time, it’s okay if it’s not totally comprehensive all at once. Drill it in your brain through repetition. You will remember things better after repeated exposure. This could mean five minutes of looking over notes before bed on a Thursday. It could be any time.
When you have a sexual experience, don’t go tell the whole fucking world. Tell a close girlfriend or two, whatever, but everybody doesn’t need to know. So you got laid yesterday? Congrats! So did millions of other people. Nobody cares as much about your sex life as you do.
Do write it down, though. Don’t show anyone, but write it down, or type it out, or something. You will enjoy being able to look at that memory later when the details have faded.
Don’t make people into plot devices. They are people. They are all just as real and just as important as you.
Don’t push responsibility and blame onto other people. Very often, the problem is not what they actually did, the problem is how you allowed yourself to respond to it.
Also don’t blame yourself for things that have nothing to do with you. Sometimes things will happen and there is nothing you can do.
Be honest with others and yourself about what you want. If you don’t know what you want, that’s okay; be honest about that, too.
Go for what you want—you cannot expect to get anything if you don’t ask for it, work for it, and/or take it. The world will not just hand you things on a whim.
Recognize that you have a lot to learn. Write things down as you discover them, or make a mental inventory. Learn about anything at all; the moment you stop learning, you’ve limited your potential in life, which truly is endless.
